A Spoken Silence

Reflections & contemplations on the spiritual life

Political correctness, labels & spirituality

A label is a mask life wears. – Rachel Naomi Remen

This morning I have decided that political correctness gets a bad rap. It is its own mislabel. It usually has nothing to do with politics. But, it has everything to do with how we see the world. Nowadays, when we refer to something being politically correct, it is usually intended to convey a negative or disapproving thought or opinion of something. It is “politically correct” to refer to someone being the chair or presiding officer of a committee, rather than a “chairman”. It is “politically correct” to refer to an “illegal alien” as an “undocumented worker”. But, what I realized this morning that attempts at “political correctness” are in reality nothing more than attempts at reframing our minds. It is not, in the end, “politically correct.” It is more accurate to call uses of such phrases as “alternate    perspectives.” These alternate perspectives have come about because of the inadequacy of the labels society has created for us. Labels are a “false mask” and a great evil.

My daughter gave me the best lesson I will ever receive in this truth. She is graduating from high school in a few months and will be heading off to college. Her dream is to be a special ed teacher. She loves nothing more than to spend hours a day with the most severely of the mentally disabled at her school. She has been an aid there for two years, has volunteered at a camp for special needs children, and held her own dance camp for special needs kids in our community. She is tender and compassionate, loving and kind. But, don’t ever use the phrase “mentally retarded” around her, and especially never use the common slang phrase, “that’s so retarded,” unless you want to feel her wrath.

Some may be critical of such hostility towards the word “retarded” as being “politically correct.” But, it is not. It is hostility towards a label that we place on people. They are people.

In her book Kitchen Table Wisdom Dr. Rachel Naomi Reden observed, “Labeling sets up an expectation of life that is often so compeling we can no longer see things as they really are. This expectation often gives us a false sense of familiarity toward something that is really new and unprecedented. We are in relationship with our expectations and not with life itself.”

What my daughter has taught me, and countless others, is that using the label “retarded” in the way we do sets up our expectation of people that have special needs. It prevents us from seeing them as they really are. It creates that false sense that we are superior and the “retarded” are inferior, when the reality is that it may be exactly the opposite. A person with a mental disability may not be able to become a doctor or engineer, or be a success in business, but be more of a human being than any of us. Such a label reveals our false expectations of ourselves and of those with special needs, and it reveals our complete lack of any true experience with the reality of God. It reveals a poverty of spirituality deep within ourselves.

This truth is not just limited to the label “retarded”. It holds true for all the labels we place on life, “Cancer”, “Professional”, “Lawyer”, “Redneck”, “Husband”, “Wife”, “A——e”, “Teacher”, “Catholic”, “Jew”, “Muslim”. The list goes on an on. I know that labels are part of life. They are part of our fallen humanity. We cannot escape them. But, we can choose how we respond to and interact with them.  The truth, as Dr. Remen noted, is that we should take the labels we impose on life far more lightly.

Peace be with you.

Fulfill the law of Christ

Let us have no self-conceit, no provoking of one another, no envy of one another. Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Look to yourself, lest you too be tempted. Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. - The Epistle of St. Paul to the Galatians 5: 25-6: 2

Mosaic of Christ Ravenna, ItalyToday is Forgiveness Sunday, the last Sunday in preparation for Lent. It is the day when we are reminded of the necessity of forgiveness. Indeed, forgiveness is the law of Christ. 

It sounds odd at first to use the word “law” and “Christ” in the same sentence. We more commonly think of Christ as going contrary to religious laws, tearing them out and revealing their hypocrisy and falsehood. We seldom consider Christ as one that institutes or establishes religious laws. But, remember, Christ did not come to abolish the law but to fulfill it and perfect it. And, the fulfillment of that law he declared to us when he taught us the truth about forgiveness. ”If you forgive others their trespasses your heavenly Father will forgive you. But, if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your heavenly Father forgive your trespasses.” (Matt. 6: 14).

We read these words often, but we seldom pause to consider their real meaning. It seems at first glance that God’s love and God’s forgiveness are conditional. Yet, perhaps it is not so much a condition as it is a basis truth. God is longsuffering forgiveness and love. We cannot unite with the peace of God while resentment and anger dwell within us. Only when we let go of the wrongs that have been done to us are we able to receive the forgiveness that comes from God, for in that forgiveness, is love, peace, hope and salvation.

This is why the apostle encourages us to struggle against self-conceit, envy and provoking one another. This is why we should overlook the trespasses and shortcoming of others. This is why we should always seek to restore those who have harmed us. It is in bearing the burdens of each other that we fulfill the law of Christ.

Peace be with you.

Entering the Great Fast

 Homily of Fr. James Hademenos Sunday February 19, 2012 at Assumption of the Virgin Mary Orthodox Church

Today is the Sunday of the Last Judgment.  We all know that these Sundays before Great Lent are Sundays of Preparation.  What are they preparing us for?  Obviously, for the Great Fast.  But, why does the Church place such emphasis on the Great Fast, even giving us these preparatory Sundays?  Why is the Sunday of the Last Judgment one of those preparatory Sundays?

To answer these questions, we must first ask another question.  What is the purpose of our life in the Church?  The answer is quite simple, actually:  everything that the Church does, all the Holy Mysteries, all the services, all the Feasts and Fasts, the cycles of the Church year, everything has but one purpose.  That purpose is to bring all of us along on a journey of salvation.

In the teaching of the Orthodox Church, salvation is a process.  It’s not magic or automatic.  Salvation, or theosis, is something that we actually have to work out in co-operation with God.  We actually have to deliberately enter into this process and struggle with it; however, we do have free will.  We can choose to enter into this process, or we can choose to ignore it.  But the consequences of our choice are huge.  They are eternal.  This is a matter of eternal life or eternal death.

What are the steps or stages of this process?  “What must I do to be saved?”

According to the Fathers of the Church, there are two aspects to the process.  First, there is the cleansing of the passions, and second there is the winning of the virtues.  This is expressed in a number of ways in the Holy Scriptures.  St. Paul talks about dying to self, that Christ may live in us.  He talks about “putting off the old man and putting on the new”.  He talks about putting to death the works of the flesh and gaining the fruit of the Holy Spirit.  All of these are talking about the same thing:  the cleansing of the passions and the winning of the virtues.  They are talking about this process of theosis, of salvation, this process of turning from our old fallen ways and turning to God, coming into union or communion with God.

We must be persistent, as the Canaanite woman was, and to keep on seeking salvation and healing from God no matter what the obstacles may be.  We’ve already focused upon the fact that God is a loving god and that He wants us to come back to Him, no matter how far we’ve wandered away.  When we do turn from our old ways and flee back to Him, He welcomes us with open arms and great joy.  That was the message of the Prodigal Son.

We’ve already talked about the passions and the virtues.  Pride is a passion, humility is a virtue.  We had that vivid picture of this on the Sunday of the Publican and the Pharisee.

But, the question now is:  why should we enter into this process?  What will motivate us to actually begin to work on these things?  That’s what this Sunday is all about.  Judgment day is coming!  The day when we will finally stand before God, when all of our masks will be stripped from us and our eternal destiny will become clear.

So, the question becomes:  “What have I done to prepare for the Judgment?”  Have I just continued in my old ways, continued in the works of the flesh, continued doing what I’ve always done?  Or have I entered into the process of returning to God?  Am I putting to death the old man in order that Christ may live in me, or is the old man alive and well?  Have I actually struggled with the cleansing of the passions, and the winning of the virtues?

The fear of the Last Judgment is that which will motivate us to do something about our eternal life.  In fact, St. Maximus the Confessor lists the fear of God, the fear of sin, and the fear of the Last Judgment as the second stage, or step, in the process of salvation.  This is what the Sunday of the Last Judgment is all about.  The Church reminds us of the judgment of God in order to motivate us to actually do something about our salvation.

And this doing something, actually entering into the process, is what the Great Fast is all about.  It’s a time of participating in the death of Christ that we may also participate in the Resurrection of Christ.  It is a time of actually struggling with putting off the passions and putting on the virtues.

And just what are the passions that we are to struggle with during the Great Fast?  Passions are such things as gluttony, greed, anger, dejection, apathy, self-esteem, and pride.  And these are listed in a hierarchy.  Let’s talk about the first passion in the list; that is, gluttony which is dealing with the passion of the stomach.  We must replace this passion with the virtues of self-control, of hungering and thirsting after Righteousness, of hunger for God, of hunger for the Holy Body and Blood of Christ.

If we don’t enter into the fast, we haven’t even begun to struggle with our passions!  Obviously, we haven’t been sufficiently motivated to even take the first step in this Lenten journey to Holy Pascha.  “And Jesus said to them, ‘I am the bread of life.  He who comes to Me shall never hunger, and he who believes in Me shall never thirst.’”

The Great Fast, the Lenten journey is full of great joy, for it’s a time for drawing ever closer to the Lover of our soul, for actually working out our salvation in the embrace of His loving arms.

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